Every year thousands of planes & ships land on Thailand’s airports & seaport and they are packed with single men of all ages or men in unhappy relationships or marriages. When they get asked by people back in their native countries what they like about Thailand and why they are going there for holiday every summer, every year. The answer usually goes like the beaches are so nice, it’s always warm and Thai people are so friendly.
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What they are not telling is the main reason for coming to Thailand and that’s because of Thai girl. Some are just out for sexual adventures while others are looking for a girlfriend or wife, but what most of them have in common is they go for bar girls. I’d say more than 80% of the foreign men coming to Thailand (who are not in healthy relationships) are having sex with a Thai bar girl or any kind of Thai hooker – and out of all these guys not more than 10 percent would admit that to their friends back home.
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| The term “bar girls” refers to girls who are prostitutes, and work in girly bars – which are bars and other nightlife related venues such as agogo clubs and beer bars. They are employed to entertain customers, dance (go-go girls), to serve drinks, and offer sex services – if they wish. |
If you haven’t made any experiences with Thai bar girls yet, maybe you haven’t even been to Thailand – this is how you hook up with a Thai bar girl. If you have, just skip reading the following five paragraphs.
You walk into a go go bar or beer bar and take a seat. If you come without female company it will not take long until one of the girls spontaneously comes over to you (not the one that takes your order) or you make eye contact with one of them and when you return her smile she will come over. Standard what she says is like “Hi what your name where you from you come to Thailand for holiday I like you you buy me drink?”
By “drink” she means lady drink and this is one of the three sources of income for bar girls in Thailand and the only reason they call it like that is because these drinks are more expensive than drinks for the customers at around 150 Baht (and her share is around 50%, if at all, usually it’s 50-70 Baht) usually no matter if she orders coke or tequila. It will not take more than five minutes for the girl to ask for a lady drink and then usually for a second one before she asks you where you stay and if you want to go to your place together.
You also have to pay the bar fine (between 500 and 1,000 Baht), that’s the money you pay to the bar so you are allowed to take the girl outside – and it doesn’t include the girl’s share. The third source of income for a Thai bar girl is her salary which is usually quite low if she gets any at all at around 6,000 Baht per month.
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Once it’s time for the girl to leave your place (or short time hotel which are common all over Thailand and rooms cost between 300 and 500 Baht for one or two hours) she usually gives you her phone number or other contact detail if you ask her for it. Like this you can arrange to meet and bang her again before she starts or after she finishes work or on her day off (they usually get 3 days off per month, if she takes more the bar will cut her salary or, more commonly, she has to pay the bar fine for every day she takes off).
Like this a lot of foreigners initially see their new Gik as a cheap and fun fucking friend, but then after a while they start developing feelings for her. “She doesn’t ask for money anymore” is what they often think, but then forget that she will be gone once the restaurant bills, transportation, accommodation, little presents etc. aren’t paid for or provided anymore.
You see a lot of these couples walking hand in hand around town and the guy proudly showing her off like a trophy when the more experienced foreigners and locals are just shaking their heads or making fun of them. The market of prostitution for Thai men is far bigger than for foreigners, but Thai men would never let anyone see them hanging out with a hooker in public or walking around with her in the shopping mall as it would totally damage their reputation.
A lot of foreigners even go as far as marrying bargirls and / or taking them to their home countries – but that should be a different story.
It’s not just the newbies to Thailand but even a lot of expats that live here for years and just don’t get out of the bars of Nana, Pattaya and Patong. Often they think it’s just so much more easy and fun to hang out with the bar girls instead of making some effort to learning Thai and approaching a girl with an ordinary job.
But maybe another reason why a lot of foreigners fall in love with a bar girl too easily and then don’t get to learn Thai is because the Thai bar girl’s English is generally decent – at least better than the standard office girl’s – and bar girls are too lazy to teach you Thai anyway, often they don’t even want their Farang boyfriend to speak Thai so they can continue gossiping about him with their friends right in front of his face.Short Stories of Love and Sex with Robots for men
If you have just a couple of Thai girl friends with normal jobs like most expats in Thailand do using Thai Cupid, even uni girls that do no sideline and learn to speak Thai you will easily be able to tell the difference between a good and bad Thai girl not only by how they speak, but also by how they behave.
One easy, obvious but true thing even beginner students of the Thai language can watch out for is how regularly she uses the polite particle “ka”. Bargirls use it very rarely while Thai girls with a good character do use it in every other sentence – especially when talking to strangers and getting to know new people.
Are Thai bar girls bad girls?
It’s important to know that there is only one reason why Thai girls decide to work in the bar: Because they come from very poor families with the majority from the northeastern region of Thailand (Isaan) and so they are working not just to support themselves but basically the whole family. Does this make them bad girls? I’d say no. You just have to be honest with yourself and don’t believe them too easily that they really like you because it’s their job to make you feel that way so they can get at your money.
Of course there are always exceptions and you can have a successful long term relationship with a Thai bar girl, though you have to be aware that you are most likely supporting her financially all the time because she hasn’t got a CV to apply for a normal job (except if you buy her a Thai restaurant or massage shop here or in your home country – but then it’s also you who makes all the investments and owns the business so she is kind of your employee that way). Or maybe you are just lucky enough to find a girl who just recently started to work in the bar.
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Thai Street Freelancing Girls
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Thailand is among the countries that have the highest rates of people infected by the HIV virus. Obviously the majority of these people are working in the “entertainment industry”. So don’t even think about having sex with a Thai bar girl without using a condom. Every 7-Eleven in Thailand has a wide selection of condoms right at the cashier for as low as 35 Baht for a package of three.
Speaking about safety in terms of the bar girl stealing from you, this is usually not a risk if you pick up the girl from a beer bar or go go bar where she is employed at so you know where to find her in case there are problems – and she knows that too. It’s a different story with freelancers and it does happen regularly and in various ways that these Thai girls steal money from foreigners.
Some stories from Blog reader, Share here.
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I spent two nights in Pattaya with two different girls i hired from a website and negotiated for 5000 BHT for 24 hours, First girl Jane was very sexy and fun loving. She took me to walking street and we really enjoyed there she was really good and showed great intimacy. we came back late night to hotel for the real play and she was awesome in the bed. the best part is that she was very neat and clean and i literally licked every inch of her body. although i hired her for 24 hrs but i let her leave in the morning after breakfast as i wanted to go out and visit different places without distraction : 2nd night i hired girl Bam again for 5000 BHT for 24 hours but we didnt go out as i was tired from day. at first i didnt find her attractive as jane but boy o boy she gave me awesome massage which got me hard as a rock for the longest time in my life as we make love till she make me cum like never before as i felt my bones are getting emptied inside the condom i wear. Next morning i get her along to Koh Larn Island and she was great company and fun. 3rd morning before i left for Bangkok Airport i just strolled near my hotel at Soi Buakhao and just wanted a full body massage to get off the tiredness and found a sensual massage parlor with a pretty girl Dee offering BJ only other than full body massage, although i wanted one last ride before i leave pattaya but i liked the girl and she was really sexy and showered me first and then give me amazing massage before she showed her awesome skills of BJ. she really left me satisfied with her skill. Now after having all these experiences in only three days all i can say is THAI GIRLS ARE THE BEST :D
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Having seen things from the other side as a former bar owner, I think there are really two sides to the coin. First, many of these ladies are there to earn money (or marry a farang = same thing) and people delude themselves that this is not the case and even marry them. Many work there because they do not have the brains, the sense of responsibility or the willingness to hold a real job for long. They are like children in that way. This is why they call each other ‘dek’ meaning ‘kid’.
When they go with a customer that person will always be a customer though. Alas people forget this. If you are on the other side of the coin though, i.e. part of their daily circle of friends, even though most are not reliable, they are generous and trustworthy for the most part. I have always found them to be a good friend in need. The author mentioned “ka” and politeness. In this they are the same as other Thais but outside of “work” when they are back in their normal life. Both worlds are usually kept separate though.
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No experience win Thailand, but some in Philippines. Life’s a bitch everywhere if you are poor, so there are similarities. I did the round of dating sites (52 at the time) and met some good friends and had a good web-chat time with many. Then I decided to go a step further and arranged to meet up with three of them in Phils.
Of the three, I knew one, Ash, had been a bar girl and was barely surviving on web cam work now that she had a kid. The second, Mitch, was a married and separated web chat girl with two kids, as was the third, Janet.
I spent time with each, including sex.
Janet, 27, was useless in bed, overly shy and more boring in real life than on cam. We parted ways. But she never tried to scam me for anything.
Mitch, 33, was erotic and oozed sex when I met her. Her shyness made her even more thrilling to be with – she could barely find words to say – she seemed genuinely overawed and to meet me. The sex was not ‘wild’ by any means, but something about her, her raw femininity, turned me on like nothing before. On first meeting we had sex twice within 30 minutes and I came both times – we were both amazed. However, there was a lack of social engagement and we eventually parted. The main point about her was that she claimed she got pregnant after that first meeting and then had a miscarriage. Of course, I paid for her care. I am 50/50 split on whether she told the truth. I bare no grudge however – I was so sexed up that I foolishly didn’t use any protection. BIG lesson – these girls’ eroticism can drive you so crazy that you really can lose your mind.
Finally, sweet Ash was the youngest at 20. I had always had the best connection with her – fun, easy, fresh, cheeky and of course, sexy. However, I knew she’d spent time in Angeles from about age 15 by working backwards from things she had told me, old photos, bf etc. So I was aware that she lied like breathing and eating. I suspected that there was a boyfriend on the scene and that I was just another western mug good for cash. No problem, eyes open, I had fun. We met twice. The sex was pretty lame, but I really enjoyed my time with her, dancing, eating, walking, talking. Deep down I knew this would not work because of the age difference. But what I did not realise initially was how her bar girl background would also have made that impossible.
I kept getting messages and even phone calls from anonymous ‘friends’ telling me she has a local boyfriend and not to waste my money. Later however, I learnt that she was even an easy lay where she lived. It became apparent that she had numerous partners for easy sex. I was sent copies of her Yahoo chats where she told her friends that she missed all the cock in Angeles! Eventually, I suspected that she was pregnant again and of course she could not hide it. We finished up on that note. No bad feelings – I was too far away and let;s face it – too old!
Looking back now, of course I was foolish and delusional from various points of view. I had my fun at a time in life when I needed to break out and explore. I was lucky not to get infected and lucky also not to get one of them pregnant. I was also lucky not to get married.
I know many other guys have better experiences, so good luck to those who try. But please read my experience and learn from my mistakes. I would definitely say to stay away fro bar girls. One guy in Ash’s network who phoned me was a past bf whom she dumped to sleep with others. He said to me ‘Paul, she is nice and fun, I know. But really she is hooked on sex from her bar days – she can not resist.’ As they say – “You can take the girl out of the bar, but you can’t take the bar out of the girl”
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I was 26 and had been living in the Pattaya area for nearly 4 years but 2 of those were in an unhappy relationship.
After I ended that relationship, I went on a sex rampage in single man’s Disneyland.
I signed up for a dating website, downloaded Tinder and Badoo as well as visited the occasional bar or gogo girl on weekends when I had no other plans. All in all, over the next six months I banged about 30 girls aged from 18-40.
I learned to build a rapport with any bar/gogo girl before leaving with them. Have fun and make them like you, they will perform much better or be more inclined to give more. If they aren’t fun, drink up and move on. I learned this the hard way after barfining the sexiest (but not necessarily the nicest) girls in bars, only to have them give one round of boring standard sex then fall asleep, giving another round of mediocre sex in the morning before hurrying to leave immediately after I paid them, keeping the lights off or staying covered up with a towel the whole time. The most standout bargirl I met at an unexpected time.
After one particularly dull tinder date strikeout and disappointing flake on one of my booty calls, I found myself horny and alone down Walking St at 3 oclock in the morning. Most of the bars were closing up or closed already so I wasn’t holding my breath. That was when I encountered Fon.
Fon was 25 years old and from Isaan. She spoke excellent english from her previous relationship to a farang and had spent 6 months in his country where he then left her heartbroken and alone, she was forced to return to Thailand and with no money to support her young child, became a Pattaya bar girl.
I barfined her and she gave me some of the best sex I’ve ever had, she let me do anything I wanted, all night. She never pressured me for anything and between sex rounds she was quite honest about telling her life story. She was a very intelligent girl with worldly knowledge and interest. We saw each other for a couple of weeks and always had fun. She was quite aware of my “butterfly” ways and joked with me about it. She was never jealous and we would talk about her customers or she would give me advice for dealing with Thai girls. I became quite good friends with her. I kept a golden rule with myself to never fall in love with a bargirl but she was an incredible fuck buddy, I eventually had to stop seeing her before I did develop feelings for her. If she wasn’t a bargirl I would have dated her on the spot, I shouldn’t be judgemental but with anything in Thailand, you have to be careful and looks can be decieving. I stayed friends with Fon on facebook and would talk occasionally even after I left Thailand.
I learned to simply treat bargirls like you would any other girl. Just because they’re prostitutes doesn’t make them subhuman. And like any other girls, some are better than others.
I still sometimes look back in nostalgia to my adventurous ways in adult Disneyland!
